When we talk about internal conflict, we refer to the act of experiencing contrasting feelings, desires, impulses, or psychological beliefs. It is a mental struggle that can happen at any point in our lives in relation to various topics such as religious beliefs, work commitments, relationships, social ideologies, and moral standpoints.
We’ll be looking at eight types of internal conflict that can sabotage your growth if not taken care of properly. We will also learn how to overcome them so that we can find our peace of mind.
Moral Conflict.(Internal Conflict)
Being saddled with contrasting beliefs when it comes to something that has to do with our personal ethics, moral conflict comes about. To be clearer, a person can believe in human rights but won’t believe in euthanasia, and that will bring about moral conflict. Also, someone might have to lie to save the life of another when they hold telling the truth in high esteem.
This particular type of conflict is usually intertwined with either moral or religious conflict. Someone can discover that they’re homosexual, yet they’re Christians. In another instance, someone might value monogamous relationships when they’re sexually suited for polygamous relationships.
Religious Conflict.(Internal Conflict)
This type of conflict can be considered as common because it has to do with beliefs (by the way, these are very mind-orientated, and this makes them very fragile topics). When presented with scientific facts, a person who values both their religious belief and the truth can begin to have religious conflict.
For instance, you can believe that God is a very loving God, but can’t bring yourself to accept that the loving God sends people to hell for eternity. Someone can be faithful religiously but still indulge occasionally in the use of marijuana, which is recognized as a drug.
Political conflict is birthed when an individual is torn between the beliefs of their political party and their own personal beliefs.
For instance, someone who believes in America may not believe in the payment of taxes. You can be comfortable with a political party but frown deeply at their approach towards the healthcare system. You can believe in the philosophy of a political party but dislike the party propagating it.
When we love someone and still want to do something that will cause them pain, love conflict occurs. A good example is when we have to smack our children in correction even though we love them with our lives. Another is loving every bit of your partner but finding some of their attitudes annoying. It could also be being in love with someone so much that you wish to keep them, but sadly, you have to let them go.
Self-Image Conflict.(Internal Conflict)
Simply put, self-image is the mental idea that one has about one’s self. So, internal conflict can arise when we are met with proof that contradicts the very things we believe about ourselves.
Someone who views themselves as honest might have to tell a lie in their resumé in order to land their dream job. A person who is very passionate about healthy eating may be neck-deep in smoking and won’t want to give up on it. A person who sees himself as an empath can see themselves constantly feeling resentful towards someone else.
Interpersonal conflict is intertwined with both love conflict and self-image conflict. It is a type of conflict that arises when you are trying to program yourself to act in a certain way, but you end up seeing yourself act oppositely. It occurs mostly in social situations.
A person can hate to talk about sports but will find themselves faking interest in it just to have a sense of belonging. An introvert can be showing off a fake high level of energy when in the actual sense, they do not have much energy.
This type of conflict comes about when two contrasting desires or beliefs arise. When it concerns life, it is normally associated with feelings of confusion and discomfort.
Instances of this type of conflict include having the desire to live life to the fullest but being unwilling to make a move to get out of your comfort zone. You may hate life but find yourself loving it at the same time. Existential conflict can also revolve around the world. For instance, you may want so much to save the world, but also believe that it is headed for doom.
So, How to Find Peace of Mind?
Here are some tips that will help you find peace of mind:
1. You need to differentiate between fear and intuition. The voice of your intuitions is usually strong and clear. The voice of fear, on the other hand, is wavering. Know the difference between the two.
2. Weigh the advantages and disadvantages of the choice you’re about to make. Whenever you find yourself in a tight spot about choosing between two choices, use a sheet of paper to draw up the advantages and downsides of both. Let the greater good win.
3. One of the first steps towards having peace of mind is figuring out your topmost priority. More often than not, internal conflict arises as a result of not having clear priorities. By priorities, I mean the things that mean the world to you.
4. Learn how to be brutally honest. Do not give in to fear, as it is one of the major underlying factors of internal conflict. Own your truth proudly. Most times, it lightens up the path that leads you to discover your priorities and your real self.
5. When in doubt, ask yourself which is the lesser evil. Necessity they say is the mother of invention. So, make a choice that won’t be too difficult for you to live with.
6. Learn how to gaze into the future from the present. Ask yourself if you’ll regret the choice you’ll make then when you’re on your deathbed. If both choices are bad, ask yourself which you’ll regret the most and go for the lesser one.
7. Calming the mind can be very therapeutic. It is a nice way to cool off and see things from entirely new dimensions. You can try to get your mind to achieve calmness and relaxation by listening to music or meditation.
Well, those are the 8 types of internal conflict and how to find peace of mind by overcoming them.
I hope that you enjoyed my explanation. Please don’t hesitate to share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section below.